The earliest weeks set the emotional temperature of a placement. Small systems—short check-ins, written preferences, and predictable feedback—prevent misunderstandings from hardening into frustration.
Week one: observe the rhythm
Prefer shadowing and note-taking over immediate optimization. Ask your nanny what felt unclear at the end of each day; ambiguity that seems small on Tuesday often matters by Friday.
Weeks two through six: name schedules and authority
Clarify who approves playdates, who speaks to teachers, and how emergencies escalate. If both parents work from home, define “heads-down” hours to protect focus and respect.
Days sixty to ninety: calibrate and celebrate
Review what is working, adjust one or two concrete items, and acknowledge growth. Professionals stay when progress is visible, not only when problems are absent.